The Village Voice published a provocative article titled “Guys Who Like Fat Chicks” about Fat Admirers (FAs)– ‘normal’ sized men who are attracted to ‘fat’ women. On the one hand I was like YEAH, this is awesome, finally the press is paying attention to the fact that beauty comes in different shapes and sizes, that while we do have an obesity epidemic in the US, it’s about time to have some positive ‘fat-talk’ rather than all the negative fat talk that abounds.
It’s important to show and discuss that curvy women are sexy, sexual, confidant, attractive etc. – as we’ve stated on LivLuna before, we’ve had enough of the body shame game- whether you’re a size 2 or 22, you shouldn’t be made to feel ashamed of your body in any way.
The VV article is trying to dispel misconceptions about FAs, like that FA’s are fetishists, but rather are into ‘fat’ women because that’s their type, the way some people might say petite brunettes are their type. Because society is so judgmental of these men, most of them aren’t ‘out’ about this, but relegated to niche websites that focus on meeting big women.
So though I think it’s great the article is celebrating diversity in beauty and attraction, and I understand the author is writing about the men who like these women, and needs to focus to make her point, I think it’s the superficial sexualization and the focus purely on the physical attributes of these women that bothers me. Isn’t that the same kind of sexual objectification we have everywhere?
So these women are ‘fat’, but is that really the dominant number one characteristic they want to define themselves by? Maybe they’re funny, smart, sensual, loving, caring, interesting, provocative, engaging, maybe that’s why the guys like them? And maybe they happen to also be ‘fat’. But I don’t think most women want guys to be with them because of their LOOKS, skinny or curvy. They want them to find them attractive and love their looks and think they’re hot, but ABOVE ALL, LOVE THE PERSON INSIDE, no!?
Also, what bothers me is the terms ‘fat chicks’ and fat, though used by FAs themselves, it seems disrespectful- is that the word curvy women want themselves described as? I want to know from you, not the guys who like ‘fat chicks’. Would you rather be called fat than big, or curvy, or Amazonian or voluptuous? Other reactions, thoughts?